Objective Jerk
Army Veteran Asshole that is learning to love Jesus. I use my MIC / Platform as a form of "Therapy", no schedule, no script, just whatever is floating my boat at the moment.
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THE TRUMP CARD: How Political Divides Affect Friendships & Families
A candid exploration of life as an American in the Philippines, navigating cultural differences, political divides, and the universal experience of family loss. The host shares his unfiltered perspective on Filipino time management, social obligations, and the challenges of cross-cultural communication.
• Experiencing the differences between American and Filipino birthday celebrations where the celebrant pays for everything
• Frustrations with the Filipino approach to time and the complete absence of appointments for services
• The challenge of maintaining friendships across political divides when discussing controversial topics like Biden's cancer diagnosis
• Reflections on how Trump and Biden are perceived differently and the inability to have nuanced political conversations
• How the loss of key family members—often maternal figures—can completely dissolve family structures and traditions
• The importance of cherishing family gatherings while they exist, as one person's absence can change everything
Again, thanks for hanging out with me!
Please feel free to comment or send an email to theobjectivejerk@gmail.com
Hey, what's up? This is the Objective, jerk. And I am said jerk, how's everybody doing? Things are pretty good, right, pretty alright, pretty okay. My life's great, can't complain, even though I still find ways to do just that. But you know, that's just who I am, I guess. Anyway, let's see what's going on. Went to my goddaughter's birthday party at a McDonald's last night, met Grimace, got a selfie.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's kind of crazy, like I think I've talked about before, parties, birthday parties in particular. Here, when it's your party, like in the states generally, when it's your birthday, your friends take you out, right, everybody goes out and eat and everybody pitches in for you. Here, you invite everybody and you have to pay for everything. It's just, it's kind of weird, I don't know. And they have parties here left and right. Dude, I get so tired. I've talked about it. It's just party after party after party after party. It's just ugh, dude, I go to, I go to like 10% of the parties that my wife goes to. She goes to them all the time. Hey, we're going to this thing. No, I'm good, thank you. I only have so much battery life for you know, being personable or being in public or talking to people, and I just, I just, you know, can't do it all the time, so, but yeah, I went last night and, oh dang it, I totally lost my train of thought. So I did that. We're just hanging out here trying trying to get some things done. Right now I'm just waiting. So you know, filipinos, the culture is, many things drive me crazy here. Right, it's great, but it is what it is right.
Speaker 1:One of the things that drives me nuts I think I brought it up before but there are no appointments for anything here. Everything is you go somewhere and you wait all damn day. I went and got my blood drawn yesterday and you got to take the number and this and that, and to me it's like, okay, this is like a public health urgent care kind of thing. I get it. I can't like make appointments, but you can. It's like if you have free or you know you get assistance for some sort of Medicaid kind of thing, whatever you got to go, and it's like you have to wait and it sucks. But if you have the money, money, you should be able to make an appointment and go and do whatever you know, and but they don't do that here. No matter what it's, there's. There's no appointments. It's annoying. It's like you, uh, hey, come in dentist appointment at 10 o'clock, but then you get there's five people already waiting and then the dentist shows up. So then you got to wait till five people get seen. It's like what the crap is? Crap is this, you know? I just, I don't know. It drives me nuts. And the thing is, because Filipinos are not punctual at all, they are the worst. They cannot be on time to save their life. So you know, if you're ever taken hostage and they're waiting for a Filipino to deliver the ransom by a certain time, you're dead. It's not going to happen. They, I don't know.
Speaker 1:Case in point right now I'm supposed to meet somebody that's bringing something to my wife. My wife's in school right now. So I'm supposed to meet this person in town, give her a bag of mangoes in exchange for something else, right? And it's supposed to be at 10. So I got a message from my wife saying hey, 10 o'clock, around 10 o'clock, you should get a phone call and then you go whatever. And it's like, okay, well, here it is. It's 1040. I haven't heard nothing. So I've been sitting here not doing anything, really just kind of waiting because I don't want to get into doing something Like I've been wanting to do the podcast for a while but I'm like I'm gonna start doing it and then the phone's gonna ring but let's see how far am I in five minutes.
Speaker 1:So so far so good, but it's just. Oh, dude, it's so so and it's. It's just like when you have people come in do maintenance for the house or for whatever kind of anything, it is never the right time, like it never. They're like oh, we'll be here at this time, and it's like after lunch instead of the morning. I mean, you know, I get it like in the States. You know the cable. That was like the worst right Getting your cable installed or whatever. And it was like either between the hours of 7 and 12 or 1 and 8 or something. You know what I mean. So it's like, but you had like either the first half or the second half so you could still kind of get stuff done. It's like well, I got cable guy coming this afternoon, so I need to get everything done now, and then you go home and you wait, you know.
Speaker 1:So there was, even though it was retarded, it was still some sort of structure, I guess. But Filipinos have no structure man. Filipinos have no structure man, except for their superstitions and parties, like that's it. You know what I mean? It's like gosh, party, party, party, party. I just like I don't drink, I don't.
Speaker 1:I can't talk to anybody Because nobody wants to talk to me really, because they're all like ooh, the little Tim dude. So I don't really talk to anybody and if I do talk to somebody, it's always the same oh, you live here. How long you want to go back? Do you miss the States? What do you like here? You know, it's the same. It's the same like six questions. So I don't know, yeah, I could, you know, not be a dick and learn the language here, but I just, I don't have an ear for it, sort of. But you know, I can't. I'm not going to try, and you know, try and speak whatever, because I mean they would look at me like crazy anyway. They would just be like well, you know, and it's like we go and order food or whatever.
Speaker 1:It's like they just get so like oh my gosh, there's a foreigner, oh no, I gotta speak. They're so afraid to speak English or whatever. It's like they. They just get so like oh my gosh, there's a foreigner, oh no, I gotta speak. They're so afraid to speak english and it's like dude, I'm in your country, chill, if you were in america, okay, yeah, I'd get it, but I'm in your country and I'm making you speak my language. So you're okay, you know, and they always mess up the order or whatever. They forget something because they're just like they're not really paying attention. They're just like, oh, my're not really paying attention. They're just like, oh my gosh I don't want to say it wrong Because my nose will bleed. That's like a thing they say their noses bleed when they speak too much English. And then a lot of people don't. It's just anxiety, I guess you know they only feel comfortable speaking English when they're drunk and it's just I don't know, but I just I don't really care to drink at least anymore, and yeah. So the whole party thing is just not, I don't. I'm just like, eh, I'd rather just be home alone or with my family maybe, but yeah, so that stuff was going on Kind of have a funny.
Speaker 1:So I talked about on my last podcast about Biden and his seemingly from out of nowhere cancer diagnosis, and I shared my post. I was like what I said, like how did he go from, in less than a year, clean bill of health to bone mastocized, you know, cancer or whatever. And um, and I talked about I was like my, my one friend, my one liberal friend. He's the only one that really says anything anymore. Everyone else that I have, that's what, uh? That I'm still friends with on Facebook, that's family or whatever. That's liberal. They don't say anything. I mean they'll share stuff.
Speaker 1:I've gotten some messages and stuff like, oh, look at this, like they're going to blue pill me or something, and I'm like that's retarded and no, that's not what you know what I mean. But for the most part, nothing, except this guy who I've talked about before. So if you've listened to my podcast, you know who I'm talking about. And I said I was like he's going to either not say nothing or he's going to just be like he's going to respond and be like Trump right. Which one do you think he did? It was the Trump right. He throws down that Trump card again.
Speaker 1:Trump lies. And I was going to read our little exchange we had, but he deleted it. So you know, I'll try and paraphrase it the best I can and real quick, I thought so if somebody makes a comment and they delete their comment, wouldn't my comment still be there? It just would look weird because, like, what the hell? But I guess not, because I'm commenting on his comment. So that's why if he deletes it, then it deletes mine, but it's my post. So I don't know, it's not like a boomer, I guess, but so it's kind of surprised.
Speaker 1:I thought at the very least you'd see my uh, my comments to his, you know so so basically, basically, yeah, he came, you know, trump, dang it, trump lies so much and this and that. And then I was like, oh, I responded like, well, okay, what lies, what are you talking about? You know, basically I said more, but I can't, really, I'm not very good. My wife, dude, she can, she's like a human tape recorder. She can remember almost every word that's said between somebody. I'm just like, yeah, I don't know, I said something about the wind, I don't know, you know. But so he, you know, he said the trump lies. And then I'm like, well, okay, well, what lies you know, basically? And then some other. And then I'm like, well, okay, well, what lies you know, basically. And then some other stuff.
Speaker 1:And he's like, oh, I hate when people say listen, it's like, well then, don't say it if you can't list even some. I'm not expecting you to know everything because, like I just stated, I don't, I don't, I can't remember shit. You know, I can't remember every good thing that I think trump did or every bad thing that I think biden did. I mean, I can name a couple, you know, and that's all. It's like just names. Name some, but you know he won't name something and he, you know, and these are like paragraph comments on the facebook and this and that blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 1:And then I was just I was at the gym with my son and I was like dude, and then so I kind of went off on him a little bit and I'm just like I was like you know, it doesn't even matter, right, what the? I'm not talking about trump. My comment was not about trump. My, my comment was about biden, how they, the administration and the media covered it up, and that's bullshit, you know. And I'm like if and so you know, just because maybe, maybe trump has like I'm sure he has lied, you know what I mean. And he keeps bringing up like oh, doing stuff on day one, oh, he said he was going to fix stuff on day one. It's like oh my God man, really, how do you not get it? But I think I talked about that so I'm not going to talk about it again.
Speaker 1:But I was just like the point is, biden had cancer through his whole presidency. Maybe they didn't find out until he was already president, but I bet you they did. They knew and they knew that, shoot, we can't change. You know, and I think what their plan was was for him to be president the second term. So maybe they found out his first term, and then they're going to come out and say, oh, he's got cancer, and then harris was going to take over, but then, you know, the debate happened and they pulled him out and all that kind of stuff. So but it's just, you know, and you sit there and ask him and all the, the, the sign, the, the, the pen machine that basically does a signature for him and all the stuff, and so he wasn't doing nothing. That's why you know, that's why he was in the basement and never did interviews and never did nothing.
Speaker 1:Because he was and people were saying that like he's all doped up on stuff, and it was because he was going through, you know, cancer treatment and stuff. You know and they didn't want you to know. So I mean that explains everything, stuff you know and they want you to know. So I mean that explains everything you know. And all of that was just complete bullshit. Elder abuse and all this stuff. Comment on that.
Speaker 1:I don't care what trump did, I'm talking about this and but he can't, he can't be like you know and I told you know, we went back a little bit and there's a few long, whatever you know getting frustrations out and this and that, and I was like dude, I would have accepted or respected more if you were like bro. You know, I don't like Trump. I can't stand him. I think he sucks, I think he's a liar. I don't like Republicans and MAGA, blah, blah, blah, blah. But this shit right here that they did with Biden is bullshit. It's not cool. You know what I mean. He could have said something like that, which I'll end up, of course, here she is calling son of a bitch.
Speaker 1:Hello, where's your mom? No, she's at school. Where are you at? Hello, hi, where's your mom? No, she's at school. Where are you at? I'm at your gate. Oh, you're at the gate. Yes, she said you were going to be at Central. Okay, I'll be right there. Okay, alright, let me go do this real quick. Alright, I'm back. So, yeah, it is right. Of course, fucking, of course I knew she's gonna show up, but at least I didn't have to go and meet her in town. She came to the house, so that's nice.
Speaker 1:He has a tray full of like sticky rice things or something. Looks like sushi, but anyway, um, so what was I talking about? Yes, my friend, so, yeah, so I mean, you know, that was I don't know. I would say he had two, well, three total his initial initial comment, my comment, his comment, my comment. I might have had two on there too, because I said something like you know, dude, it's so obvious that the TDS is strong with you. You either don't say anything or you just answer everything with like ooh Trump, you know.
Speaker 1:So I went to when I was sitting there waiting for this and I was debating, like, oh, I'll do a podcast, I was like, oh man, I'll talk about you know, and then I go to look it up and it's all gone, it's not there. So I was like, oh man, what the hell? It would have been better to read, I don't know, but, um, what you want to call it Um, I don't know, but whatchamacallit? Oh, I was kind of so when I saw that it was all deleted, I was like, oh man, are we still friends? You know what I mean? I was thinking maybe he. But yeah, we are.
Speaker 1:So it looks like he just he, just, you know, deleted the whole exchange. I don't know, it looks like he just deleted the whole exchange. I don't know, maybe he, Maybe he To me, him doing that kind of tells me that I kind of won the argument. You know, if there is a winner or loser or whatever, and if he's like reading it and he's like, oh man, man, I don't know, I don't like that, and he deletes it, cool. But I think you should send me like a personal message and like, hey, I see what you're saying, blah, blah, I don't like whatever this and that. You know, kind of, I get what you're saying this now, but I deleted, I don't know, he just deletes it and then nothing, what? So like I don't know, I'm just like, I don't know, I'm just like, did somebody else delete it? He can't delete it because it's my post, right, he can delete what he says. I wonder if my wife went in Because she doesn't like me arguing about this stuff and I normally don't really argue with my friend about it.
Speaker 1:This was probably the only time. There's been a couple times where I was like really kind of annoyed, I'm like what the Right? And then before I hit send, I'm like no, and then I delete it and I'm a little more nicer. So this was probably the most, I guess, aggressive or kind of confrontational I was, and it wasn't even that bad, you know, really it's just.
Speaker 1:But it's like you can only. You know, it's like. I keep saying it over and over again I can't. You know, you can not like Trump. You don't like the way he looks, his attitude, the things he says, you don't like Republicans and all that kind of stuff. But you can't just deny the things that are going on and that have happened. You know what I mean. You can't. Just. It's like dude.
Speaker 1:And again most people are catching on. You know. Most people are like the Democrats have lost their mind and they're just like I'm neither right now, I'm not a Democrat and I can't get with MAGA or Republicans, so I'm just going to wait and see for the next whatever, and that's fine, like I respect that more than just staying on the Democrats and everything they do is great and it's all trash and evil, but you just, oh, and every time you're like dude, what the hell is this? Oh well, trump, it's like I'm not talking about Trump, I'm talking about your retarded ex-president. Like I said, I'm not like making light. You know it sucks, he's got cancer. It sucks that anybody has cancer. You know, like making like? You know it sucks, he's got cancer, it sucks that anybody has cancer. You know I don't.
Speaker 1:You know, like I said, I don't even blame Biden anymore. I don't hate Biden, I hate the administration he had and I hate his wife and you know just all of those people. Because he was just trying to probably go through therapy and they're probably feeding him a bunch of bullshit and just go out there and say this, all you got to do is this, this and that. But I mean, when you look back at it, it makes complete sense because he never, you never saw him. You never, nothing, nothing. You would see him fall down some stairs or do a couple things here and there, but it was just like Dude compared to Trump.
Speaker 1:Trump is Every day Saying something in public, unscripted, going, doing. You know what I mean Just being out there doing his job. But Biden fucking hid Because he was probably in a hospital bed getting chemo. I guess you know, and it makes sense, they sit there here, we're gonna chemo the shit out of you and then, or whatever it is, they gave him I don't get chemo, but and uh, and then he would just every once in a while, when he was feeling pretty good, they'd give him some medicine, some little b12 cocktails and some amphetamines or something, and to get him to kind of hey. But that while, when he was feeling pretty good, they'd give him some medicine, some little B12 cocktails and some amphetamines or something to get him to kind of hey.
Speaker 1:But that's why he was just always so lost and just it looked so bad and they knew it and they were trying to cover it up. You know that's what's bullshit. That's like when Roosevelt was president and they were trying to hide his legs. I mean, they didn't, they didn't lie about it, they kind of hid it a little. You know he's always sitting and this and that and or, but that would be like them not admitting it at all. Oh, no, he's fine. Well, I heard he had polio. No, no, no, no, no, he's good, he's just tired. You know what I mean? It's the same. I mean that's downplaying it a little bit, but it just.
Speaker 1:It's just annoying that people do hate Trump, hate MAGA, hate Republicans Fine, but don't sit there and say that Biden was a good president and the things that they did were good and right. And just Because they're not, they weren't no, go back and suck on the teat of Obama. You know, even Obama sucked, though Obama was shit, but he at least, you know, had personality, charisma. He was a charismatic piece of shit. You know he was like no, that's not good. I was going to say he's like one of those, the old shit that's turning white and it's got like mold growing on it. It's got a little character. You know, I don't know, but it just see, and that's the TDS man.
Speaker 1:That's the thing, you know and I can admit, when trump does something I don't like I'll admit it like doing the pope thing, it didn't really bother me, really, I don't think it was, I don't think it was a good move. Like if he came to me and say, hey, what if I did this? I would have been like, yeah, um. But I mean, I know if somebody came to him like, dude, what if we did this? And the thing is like they the left tried to paint that like in such a. The thing is is like people think the Pope is like Jesus to Catholics, and it's like he's not. The Pope is an important person, a big part of the church, but mocking the Pope is nowhere near the same thing as mocking jesus, and trump wasn't mocking him, it was he. It's not like him dressing up as the pope at a thing, and you know what I mean. It was an ai image that somebody else made and he was probably fine, whatever. So I mean whatever, I wouldn't, I would have said no. I said no, you shouldn't do that. And then, like January 6th, he didn't say nothing. Trump said nothing about it, but when it was going on and I remember seeing the people and it was like man, come on, don't Just go away, leave. You know what I mean. And, um, I don't know.
Speaker 1:There was a couple things in his first presidency that I was like eh, so far, though, in this one dude, I got no problems at all with what Trump's doing. I mean, you know the Pope thing. That's about it, I guess. But yeah, it's like you know, in the first one he was trying to be nice. In this one he's like you know what Gloves one he was trying to be nice In this one, he's like you know what Gloves are off. Baby, it's going to happen this time. So I know he's doing a lot of things that he wanted to do before, but he was trying to do it, like you know, nicely I guess, but then everything got. He just got bombarded with a bunch of shit and then COVID and everything. He just got bombarded with a bunch of shit and then COVID and everything. So I know, when he was like dude, when I win this one, I'm freaking, I'm going to make up for all the stuff I wasn't able to do the first, the first term, you know, but it's great. And the thing is it's like you know, 10 years from now they'll be like dude. Trump was an asshole, but he was a good president and they're not going to be able to deny it. They're not going to be able to be like you know. They're not going to be able to dispute it. Some still may try, but I don't know, we'll see. That's it.
Speaker 1:Just wanted to talk about my old TDS. I think it's hilarious and sad at the same time. I don't know, but let me know what. You think you got any friends such as those that just don't? I know lots of people have lost friends because of this. And you know, family gatherings are, you know, here? It's like that's one kind of good thing I guess about being here. Is I don't here, is I don't here, they don't really care.
Speaker 1:And some Filipinos like Trump, but it's not. You know, if they're into politics, they're into their own politics, right. So but like my wife's brother's wife, so her sister-in-law like she's a big anti-Trump, you know, democrat person. She came here. I didn't say nothing. You know she's a nice lady and we get along and all that kind of stuff, but we just don't, you know, don't talk politics, because you know, you know how it goes. But I think I mean my mom would kind of, but she wasn't. She was kind of like she was a worse debater than me, you know. And then so, yeah, everyone else kind of doesn't care, or Trump.
Speaker 1:And then I have some family on my dad's side that they're a little TDS, but I don't really see them very often, every once in a very great while. Last time I seen them was 2018. And then before that it was I don't even know like 2010 maybe. I mean, here and there I would see people, but I don't know, I mean it sucks.
Speaker 1:You know, that was a big thing too when I, when I first I'm going over my time a little bit but I didn't really have like a big family kind of dynamic upbringing. You know what I mean. It was just my mom and my sister. I didn't really have like a big family kind of dynamic upbringing. You know what I mean. It was just my mom and my sister. And then my grandparents were there. I lived with them occasionally and stuff, but it wasn't like this typical kind of, you know, large family dynamic, right. And then when I started going back to Utah to visit and then I eventually lived there, I had, you know, cousins and aunts and uncles and grandparents and just like you know, we'd have these family things and it was kind of cool and I enjoyed it. And so I was like, oh man, this is nice. You know, when I get out of the army, this is where I'm going, and that was a plan with my wife and stuff. I was like this is where we're going.
Speaker 1:But then it's just family members start passing away and those family members are the glue that you did not realize that held your family together. You ever have that. You have a person that you know, you have this tight family bond, and then that person passes away and then just it's gone. It's like what the heck happened. And then you realize that that person was the glue, you know, and it's generally a woman, a mom, a grandmother, something like that. You know.
Speaker 1:So, like my stepmom when she passed away, that whole family dynamic I had in Utah, just because then everybody hated on my dad from her side and it was just all kinds of drama and stuff like that and it just disappeared and and then some family moved and I mean you know they didn't move because she died, it was. I think they moved actually before, if I'm not mistaken, but it was. I think they moved actually before, if I'm not mistaken, but it was. You know that and anyway, and it was just you know they were my aunt and uncle. It was like that was the house that my dad grew up in and that's like when I think of my, you know, one of the houses growing up, there's two houses I think of, and that was one of them. And now it's gone and it was demolished. They sold it for real estate, whatever, and it was just.
Speaker 1:I was really bummed when I heard that, you know, and then they moved out of state and then, not long after that, my stepmom died and it just, it just where'd it go? Family's gone. And then you know, my here on my wife's side, when her mom passed, because her mom had a big family, a bunch of siblings, sisters and brothers, and when she died, same kind of thing happened. It's just like, where are they at? They're gone now they're doing their own thing, whatever. It's like her mom was the glue that kind of made everybody get together and do all this stuff.
Speaker 1:It's kind of crazy, I don't know. But anyway, so you know, if you got the family time and you have, you know your gatherings and aunts and uncles and your cousins and everybody gets together and you enjoy that. Dude, really cherish it, man, because you think like, oh well, you know, there's so many people here, it doesn't your whole family doesn't have to go away for the family dynamic to go away, just one person, and you might not even realize it. I don't know, it's crazy. But anyway, thanks for hanging out. Appreciate your time. That's about it, god bless. All right, bye.
